“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ~Oscar Wilde
Happiness and peace come from the inside, from within each of us. In order to achieve either of these things, we need to look inside of ourselves and be who we are. No one else can achieve happiness for us. Instead, it’s only something that we can accomplish for ourselves. In order to be truly happy and at peace with our lives, we need to know who we are and not be afraid to be ourselves.
Find yourself. You can’t be yourself until you know exactly who “you” are. It’s important that you know what you’re about, understand who you are, and accept yourself for all of those things. What are you about? What things do you value? What’s important to you? What makes up who you are? These are all important questions that each of us must answer and come to terms with in order to truly find ourselves.
For me, I realized lately that I had lost my true identity and myself- the things that I actually like, believe and value along the way. Don’t get me wrong, the fault for these things lies squarely on my shoulders. Luckily, it’s like riding a bike. I might fall, but I am definitely getting back up and riding again. The things that I knew about myself, what I am about all came flooding back to me.
What am I about? I am about my son, my family, true friends and faith.
What things do I value? Relationships with my son, friends and family
What’s important to me? First and foremost, the most important thing to me is my son and then family and friends, having fun, laughter, not taking life or myself too seriously and being a strong person.
What makes up who you are? Knowing that I will falter but understanding that I do have the strength to pick myself up and to rely only on myself.
Define yourself on YOUR terms. The first step to this is learning to stop caring about how some people perceive you. Honestly, some people will like us and some people won’t. If they do, then great and if not, does it really affect us and the important things in our life? Probably not.
How can any of us possibly be ourselves when we are caught up questioning whether others think we’re good enough, smart enough, funny enough, and popular enough for them? We can’t. We can’t truly be ourselves if we are focusing on what another person wants us to be. We can’t be ourselves AND conform to a mold that they’ve created for us. Being a people pleaser isn’t going to get anybody anywhere. There’s no possible way to be you and to be a people pleaser.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr Seuss
Often times, people take my “I don’t give a crap” attitude the wrong way. But, honestly I’ve learned over the last couple of years that I don’t really care what other people think about me or how they judge me. I like what I like, I do what I do, and I am who I am. If they don’t like it, then they can go take a hike. If they talk crap about me and are a poison to my life, I cut them loose. It might be harsh, but it works for me. I’m too old for junior high drama and people who still act like they’re in the 8th grade. I’ve gradually learned that what other people say or think has no consequence to my life. So, why should I care? I refuse to give any person that kind of power over my life. The only one that should have power, control or influence on my life is ME! Knowing that is so empowering!
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
So, we all need to listen to ourselves. Find our confidence, our self esteem and be responsible for ourselves. We’re individuals and we should be proud of that! Let’s all be who we are!